Advice Thread

Robot · Post by **Robot** » Sun Jul 18, 2010 6:00 am

Explotaro wrote:Thanks, Spoony. (That is if you're complementing me and not dissing Robot)

I also posted this, hoping for response:
I'm kinda scared what'll happen if I don't get rid of the child in me. But I don't want to get rid of it. It's what makes me...well, me.

Than don't.

Robot · Post by **Robot** » Sun Jul 18, 2010 6:05 am

Robot wrote:Good luck.

Post by **Spoony** » Sun Jul 18, 2010 6:06 am

You're awesome Robot.

I am the Lazer Viking · Sun Jul 18, 2010 8:59 am

Explotaro wrote:I also posted this, hoping for response:
I'm kinda scared what'll happen if I don't get rid of the child in me. But I don't want to get rid of it. It's what makes me...well, me.

So like

Alternative 1: Get rid of your inner child to please others.

or

Alternative 2: Be yourself.

I'd wager you probably think you "happiness" is what's at stake, but dude, you'll be far happier if you just stay the way you are.

In my mind there's no contest.

Post by **Superior Bacon** » Sun Jul 18, 2010 2:30 pm

Well, I think he's means the irresponsibility part. He's only 17, and marriage is a huge responsibility. There's going to be less time for fun stuff (playing video games, hanging out with friends, etc) and a lot more time spent of planning finances, etc.

Explotaro · Post by **Explotaro** » Sun Jul 18, 2010 3:47 pm

You're both right. But I did decided to just stay myself and do the best I can with finances and stuff.

Sleauxbreaux · Post by **Sleauxbreaux** » Mon Jul 19, 2010 7:48 pm

Explorato, I am actually extremely familiar with your situation. I was engaged when I was 17. I kid you not.

Personally, I think most of what was said so far is good advice. My advice on your relationship would be to wait. I know it's not my place to say, but if I had waited, I wouldn't have had my heart broken and I'd be a lot better off now. Granted, you sound like you're much better off than I was at the time, but I would experience moving out on your own or with a roommate (or maybe even Autumn) before attempting that. It's good.. "practice" to have someone else living with you.
I'll admit, you sound like you're looking at the situation from a very mature and well-rounded perspective, and I respect that. The Air Force thing, however, is... sketchy. I have two friends who (one of them recently) had relationships crumble due to their activity in the Air Force, and a third who is headed in the same direction. Every relationship I've attempted, save for one, has been long distance, and the more I try, the more I believe they can't work.
That's my opinion, but regardless of how you go about your situation, I wish you all the luck in the world, my friend. I'm rooting for you guys.

As far as the inner child thing goes. Do NOT, under any circumstances, lose your childishness for any reason or any person. Don't change for anyone. If someone is asking you to, they're not the right person for you. Simple as that.
Life SUCKS if you can't look at through a child's eyes from time to time. I would BEG you to retain innocence and childishness. It's a quality I wish every single person shared.

@Lotharu: Lazybones21 <<<that's my gamertag. I dunno if we play the same games, but you're welcome to add me.
(This applies to anyone else on the forum as well.)

Crawfish · Post by **Crawfish** » Mon Jul 19, 2010 8:03 pm

Someone wants to date me.

However, even though I like him, he's already going out with someone and I don't want to be responsible for that break-up. It'll make me feel like some kind of skank. Is it right to just forget that other person for the sake of my own happiness? Or is my first instinct the best one to trust?

Advice away.

Stranaton · Post by **Stranaton** » Mon Jul 19, 2010 8:04 pm

Crawfish wrote:Someone wants to date me.

However, even though I like him, he's already going out with someone and I don't want to be responsible for that break-up. It'll make me feel like some kind of skank. Is it right to just forget that other person for the sake of my own happiness? Or is my first instinct the best one to trust?

Advice away.

Patience, grasshopper. Just wait for the inevitable to unfold.

Sleauxbreaux · Post by **Sleauxbreaux** » Mon Jul 19, 2010 8:10 pm

Crawfish wrote:Someone wants to date me.

However, even though I like him, he's already going out with someone and I don't want to be responsible for that break-up. It'll make me feel like some kind of skank. Is it right to just forget that other person for the sake of my own happiness? Or is my first instinct the best one to trust?

Advice away.

Let him break up with her if he really wants you. Don't come between them, just be passive until he makes a move. Don't let him play you or her, and if he breaks up with her, make sure she doesn't know you were the reason they broke up, or (in my experience) she'll do everything she can to ruin you.
Like Stranaton said, just be patient in this case. That's my advice.

Crawfish · Post by **Crawfish** » Mon Jul 19, 2010 8:58 pm

Thanks, yeah that's what I was thinking. I don't want to be that dick but I'm so eager to have a real relationship.

btw, no "she"s involved in there, but it's still appreciated.

Sleauxbreaux · Post by **Sleauxbreaux** » Mon Jul 19, 2010 9:00 pm

Crawfish wrote:btw, no "she"s involved in there, but it's still appreciated.

Gotcha. Pardon my assumption. From my experience, same rules apply in that case.

Sleauxbreaux · Post by **Sleauxbreaux** » Mon Jul 19, 2010 9:31 pm

Does anybody know anything about motorcycle maintenance?

Stranaton · Post by **Stranaton** » Mon Jul 19, 2010 9:49 pm

Sleauxbreaux wrote:Does anybody know anything about motorcycle maintenance?

2 or 4 cycle?

Sleauxbreaux · Post by **Sleauxbreaux** » Mon Jul 19, 2010 9:53 pm

Four stroke.