The Dating Stories/Progress thread

[Dire]

It's a snack for when you're on the go.

[shazza]

reyo, make the face in your avatar. she'll fall madly in love with you instantly

[Reyo]

reyo, make the face in your avatar. she'll fall madly in love with you instantly

What do you mean "make" the face. You guys don't constantly have that express on your own faces?

Well, what you do is, you ask her if she wants to get coffee or something after work. And then you talk to her like an actual human being who you may or may not develop a deeper relationship with.

Also, spaghetti? The hell kind of Subway do you eat at?

I sense undertones. I know how to talk to girls, and show them respect, I just don't get how this apparent "dating game" is played.

Like whether or not there's even a game to be played......for instance.

[TheStranger]

To my experience, dating is just hanging out and doing stuff. Ive never been aware of any sort of game being played

[shazza]

same. i've never liked the concept of ~dating. i prefer to be friends with people and see where that takes us. i can't imagine how awkward it is to have to have dinner or something with someone you don't even know lol x: but it does work for a lot of people so i don't bash it too hard. i've just apparently never been pretty enough to get asked on dates until they got to know me :P

i mean kyle and i "dated" after we were a couple...we'd go out and get dinner or go to movies/the zoo/etc together but there was never a going out on dates to get to know someone period. we hung out at college and chatted online.

[hotb]

touch her butt

if you don't touch her she won't realise you want to take things to the sink

[Reyo]

Well to be honest, stranger, you're the first one to say something to that end. Most of the other advice I've recieved has ranged from "All you gotta do is throw the charmander clothes come off!" to as complicated as being given a list of how I'm supposed to treat them completely different from every friend, aquaintence, and loved one I've ever known, including my parents, from the very beginning.

I also ask because, not to try and open another can of worms, if I'm supposed to avoid that ever elusive "friendzone" I'm supposed to follow said list to distinguish myself from a "friend" and a "boyfriend."

[hotb]

like I said if you don't want to be in the friendzone you need to do things like touch her and make physical contact so she knows what your intentions are

obviously don't make her or uncomfortable or molest her

[Dire]

If she's interested you're probably not gonna go in the friendzone. That happens because the girl isn't interested.

[Reyo]

You know, I do have the confidence to actually do that (even as far as actually touching her butt), but I thought you were kidding...

I mean...you're a girl, right? This is advice coming from someone of the female gender?

[Dire]

He's a dude that looks like a scrawny teenage david tennant.

He's right though.

[shazza]

i unfortunately cannot give you any insight into how to girl :< i put prospective boyfriends through the gauntlet of fire and kyle actually had to ask me like DO YOU LIKE ME BECAUSE I CAN'T TELL because i was really a bitch to him for a while. i am the worst. i just wanted to make sure he was worth it >>

if she grabs you and does the kisses then that's a pretty decent bet though

honestly though if you ask her out for coffee or something that in of itself is a really good indicator that you are interested in a romantic relationship. most people don't really do that when they're just wanting a platonic friendship (though if it goes that way, respect it.) if she accepts, i can almost guarantee you that she's at least attracted to you and interested in knowing you better.


edit: regarding princess brothel's suggestion, s/he isn't wrong. but i wouldn't do a lot of touching (and by touching i mean like. shoulders or hands. if you go for the booty n tiddies right now you're definitely going to be creepy,) immediately because that's quite a put off when you don't even know someone. remember most girls operate on "rapist until proven not an asshole" so try to keep it calm til you get to know her.

[hotb]

He's a dude that looks like a scrawny teenage david tennant.

He's right though.

excuse me David Tennant looks like an aged me

but yeah I'm not a master of romance but I pulled a girl once and I distinctly remember touching her butt, from this we can infer that it works 100% of the time

[Reyo]

That sounds like stable enough advice. The only thing after that, though, is I don't know how to formulat a continuation plan. Like...there's coffee...then there's after coffee.

(I don't mean "sex" I mean...like...more coffee? Coffee and a biscuit? How many dates is acceptable before I can introtude biscuits with the coffee?)

(also...not...a metaphor for sex...I seriously mean when do I introduce something other than just coffee to coffee...)

[Dire]

Probably when you learn enough so that you don't have to ask for basic details like favourite colours or her birthday.
By that time you should have an idea of what she's interested in and then you can suggest you guys do something related to her interests. Like if there's a movie coming out she's excited for, or maybe there's a cuisine she hasn't tried yet but wants to.

She might suggest stuff too so it wont all be up to you.