The Dating Stories/Progress thread

[Nachalnik]

i have a boyfriend and he's really nice

we play tf2 together alot and he always tells me how cute i am (●´∀｀●)

[shazza]

unba you two are the cutest and i want to squish you both



your story reminded me of how kyle confessed his affection to me and be prepared for cheese (and old aim names)

we had been talking about peanut butter for some reason and his analogies here is what spurred our continued use of "peanut butter sandwich" as a euphemism for sex. he totally was not just trying to get into my pants in this conversation though lol.

the "friend" he "made a Sandwich" with was a girl he knew when he was 17 or so whom he had a one-night-stand with (long story short: she got as close to rape as possible without it actually being rape and he while they remained friends for a while afterwards, something clicked when he told the story to me and he realized what she did and broke all contact with her.)

also i TOTALLY did not know what was going on until near the end

ThatGoober55さん: I really like peanut butter. (note here that he bodaciously meant he likes peanut butter, no sexual overtones yet)
ispeakpewさん: lawl
ThatGoober55さん: I tried it once with a friend, and it was pretty bleh... lookin for that right person though... to y'know, share peanut butter with.
ispeakpewさん: lawl
ThatGoober55さん: I probably don't make very good sandwiches, but I'll get better.
ispeakpewさん: aww
ispeakpewさん: is ok
ThatGoober55さん: My passion for peanut butter will push me beyond my capabilities.
ispeakpewさん: im not so good either
ThatGoober55さん: We can get better together. <3
ispeakpewさん: xD
ThatGoober55さん: That is such a rare thing to come across nowadays though... two people that aren't very experienced with peanut butter.
ispeakpewさん: haha its called
ispeakpewさん: nerdy people dont get out and make friends syndrome
ThatGoober55さん: Well I know but... freakin kids these days are trading sandwiches like candy.
ispeakpewさん: ikr
ThatGoober55さん: I don't want that.
ThatGoober55さん: I just want my one sandwich buddy.
ispeakpewさん: lawl
ThatGoober55さん: It's alright if it's not gourmet, special awesome peanut butter, as long as it's with someone who I care about eating peanut butter sandwiches will be that much more special.
ispeakpewさん: awww
ispeakpewさん: i cant decide whether to hug you or start laughing at the fact that you're technically talking about food
ThatGoober55さん: Hahahhaa
ThatGoober55さん: Y'know... I do care a lot about you. I do eventually want to eat peanut butter sandwiches with you. I don't want to rush 'cause y'know... a hurriedly made sandwich is all lumpy and unsatisfying. When the time is right, I'll make the best daisies peanut butter sandwich you've ever made, if you want to eat it with me that is.
ispeakpewさん: i
ispeakpewさん: awww D:
ThatGoober55さん: you've ever had***
ThatGoober55さん: :\ Don't fail me now grammar!
ispeakpewさん: xD
ispeakpewさん: is ok
ispeakpewさん: still understands
ThatGoober55さん: I don't want to force you to eat peanut butter. I'd never do that. I just have to know that you want some and I'll share it with you.
ispeakpewさん: ahahha this is the cutest confession ever
ispeakpewさん: ilu
ThatGoober55さん: XD
ispeakpewさん: -hug-
ThatGoober55さん: I... I'm probably blushing right now.

and we started actually officially being boyfriend/girlfriend a couple days later which happened to be the day before thanksgiving and i'll never forgive him because it's made for the worst anniversary date ever. THANK GOD I GET TO PICK THE WEDDING DATE.

[Unbalanced]

well, at least now i know there are stupider ways to become a couple than what we did

(jk you are the cutest too)

[AngelicSongx]

Aww Shazza, that's so cute! But, how is it a bad anniversary date? It's easy to remember, and you could eat non-sexual peanut butter sandwiches and turkey and other thanksgiving foods on that day, too.

[Reyo]

I had completely forgotten about this thread's existence. Either way, here's a copy paste of a relevant comment I made earlier in the "Things that piss you off" thread.

It's entirely too possible that the girl I like flaked on me the other day for my liking. I hang out at her house (on her request) we have what I think was an OK time just talking, but two days later she doesn't want to go out and do stuff. She just wanted to stay home. I had to leave town, but said it was possible for me to postpone my departure another day, and that it was up to her if she wanted to do something. While this was going on I was wondering if I was gonna get invited to hang at her house again, but I wasn't going to invite myself like a common douchebag. Long story short it didn't happen.

Maybe I'm being paranoid though...it's just curious that, given the initial hanging out was her idea, this potential second hanging out was never brought up as a possibility...

[Vax]

If your interested, you should ask her again if she wants to hang. It's not douchebaggy to show interest in someone you have an interest in.

[Reyo]

To be honest, she did say that she was willing to make plans for the next time I was in town. The main issue is that it's a little fishy that, after having hung out at her place with no formal planning, such a thing wasn't brought up as a possibility for when all she wanted to do was chill out at her house. I realize it could've been that she had the idea I just wanted to go out and do stuff, but such a thing wasn't confirmed nor denied, it was just assumed. I may just be being paranoid, but it smells too much like that scenario where you and a couple friends make plans, only at the last minute those plans are cancelled...numerous times. That in itself needs explaining though:

Day one: I hang out at her house. All we do is talk. No awkwardness happens. All is well.
Day two: We had made plans to go see a movie (which would've happened day one but didn't because of reasons) but we couldn't because she had a family night (understandable) to do.
Day three: I leave for town, or hang out with her (this is the situation I am now telling you about).

We have plans in the work for next month, but I'm a little worried, given recent events, that those will fall to the wayside because of last minute shenanigans. I'm presenting this to the world to ask if my concerns are founded in anything, or if it's more likely one big coincidence. It's too reminiscent of that "I'm busy washing my hair" style of rejection where she basically throws you to the curb without having to deal with the stress of physically throwing you to the curb. I don't mind her throwing me to the curb, to be honest. That's her choice. I just want to fucking know that and not be led on. That way I can set my sights elsewhere. And this is where I stop before I get too tangential/controversial.

[Dire]

I wouldn't be worried yet.

[shazza]

Aww Shazza, that's so cute! But, how is it a bad anniversary date? It's easy to remember, and you could eat non-sexual peanut butter sandwiches and turkey and other thanksgiving foods on that day, too.

because we both have to go to our respective family's celebrations and my family is in south Louisiana and his is in Fort Worth so we never get to do anything together on our actual anniversary :c the one time he came with me to my family thanksgiving we still didn't get to do anything because we didn't have our own car so couldn't go off sightseeing on our own.

[Nachalnik]

bf can't afford to visit me

parents won't let me visit bf

(ノಠ益ಠ)ノ

[Reyo]

I wouldn't be worried yet.

That worries me. There some kind of trigger word or event I need to be looking for or is that just because it's too early in the "relationship"?

[Tuckertrilby]

iiiiiiiiiiiits that time again for another dating story from yours truly!

So I met this girl talking in a forum similar to this. She starts talking videogames and minecraft with me which is awesome! So we chat for a day and she drops a number, and I should have taken that as a sign, but nope I didnt.

So we txt for a week or two and then I invite her to my minecraft server (I know nothing but straight class there) and she starts building and we chat and laugh and have a good minecraft time. After playing minecraft for a few days she asks me to go visit her. I put it off for a week to get to know her more. I found out she occasionally smoked pot, and drank socially. Which isnt a big deal to me.

She asks if when we hang out is it going to be a date. I say "hey why not, you seem pretty cool and cute." So she gets all excited and says how nice she is going to dress and how we should go see a movie and talk. So date day comes, and I go to pick her up. Its a decent hour and twenty minute drive. I get there and she hops in the car, and I am almost terrified. Her version of "Dressing Nice" looked like a goth hobo's dumpster closet. I was concerned, and didnt say anything. I smiled and introduced myself and we started talking. She was pretty cool, she asked me questions while I drove us to the local mall. She asked if she could play a cd in my cdplayer and I was ok with it, until....


The first song that came on her "cd" or as I will call it from now on, the promise of things to come music, was "U Blocked me on FB now you will Die." I knew of the song, but I would not open up a date with that sort of mix. So I look past this and worry for my life slightly as we drive off to the mall. She starts telling me how she smoked a bowl before our "Date" and how she really wanted to smoke more, and she asked if she could. I said no, because I take care of clients, who ride in my car sometimes. She says ok and gets pouty. Then she does something that is a pet peeve of mine. She messes with my radio settings, changing the bass, treble, balance and then starts to rifle through my ipods settings. I asked her nicely to stop, but she kept going. I bit my tongue and tried not to go insane.

We get to the mall, and she tells me to wait by my car while she goes and does something. I watch he run behind a bush about 30 feet away. I tilted my head in curiously as I smelt what she was doing... Pot, not a big deal. She comes back blitzed and says "man that was my 4th bowl today. 4th... it was 12:45 pm... I woke her up telling her I was heading out at 10:30... I am have lost interest in the girl at this point and am just looking for an excuse to leave now.

She decides we dont want to see a movie, and begs me to buy her food. We get food, and start to eat. She demolishes hers like she has never eaten. Then starts eating mine without asking. (peeve 2!) We go to the arcade, she begs me for cheddar to play... we play game, her gun doesnt work, she smashes it. @_@


I go to bring her home, and she starts talking about how she cuts herself and how she needs to get drunk because she hasn't been drunk in 12 hours... She sees some of her friends next to a bar and asks me to stop. She gets out of the car and I drive away.


I really need to find a girlfriend who is not psyco...

[Sol Reaper]

My turn

So a few weeks ago I had this stunning revelation that I should move out and started making plans to do so next January. I was discussing this with my at-the-time girlfriend and brought up the subject of her moving in with me because she's basically done with school too and I thought "Hey I love her and she loves me so why not". After I mentioned this she went into one of her not-talking-to-me spells so I pressed her on this; why she kept going silent and refusing to talk to me. Turns out the things I talk about scare her so she distances herself from me. I'm fine with this, she's obviously just not ready. But then she drops this bomb: "Don't you think it's a little naive to go through our relationship expecting it's going to last forever?" Now, if you don't know me, you know I put everything into a relationship; I operate under the assumption that if two people love each other they'll never want to break up. Which I suppose is naive but when she said it like a reprimand, I'll admit I was rather hurt. I tried to message her to get her to talk to me about this but she continues to refuse to speak to me. So I figure if she won't talk to me about our issues then the relationship will get nowhere.

I'm also the kind of person who won't mope around for weeks when I have a breakup, so I was back on the scene about a week later. Don't give me your "courtesy time" bullshit because frankly I don't care. My ex-gf didn't talk to me enough to really constitute a relationship so at this point breaking up was a formality. Anyway, I recently found this really cute girl about my age, maybe a year older, and we've really clicked; hoping this goes somewhere but not too fast or I'll end up with another fiasco like last time.

[Dire]

Well done, Son. I think you made a good move. Good on ya.

[Sol Reaper]

Well done, Son. I think you made a good move. Good on ya.

Thank you; it really felt like a glorified friendship rather than a romantic relationship at times.

I'm probably a horrible person now, but I went ahead and asked this new girl if she wanted to internet date now and then in-person date when we both could meet up. She said yes, so I'm taking that as a strong sign. So far it's been better than any point in my previous relationship; she never fails to talk to me, she plays games with me (oh yeah my ex never played games with me willingly), she allows me into her issues where I can help. I'm gonna hold off on talking about the "big question" stuff like marriage and moving in together unless she wants to first, so I expect this relationship to last a good while longer than my last one.

Then again it's only the first few days; it takes weeks and months to really know how a relationship will turn out.
Wish me luck.