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Some people are touchy feely with friends, which sends mixed signals if that friend considers that stuff to be flirting or things that a gf/bf would do.

I would just be up front and ask her why she's being this affectionate, and if she does this kind of thing with friends and it makes you uncomfortable or makes things weird, ask her to stop.

If she doesn't, it's best to break contact before either of you end up hurt.

dave sent me another photo of himself because the one he has on his dating profile isn't too good and oh my god he looks like 10 years older than he actually is but he's handsome and i think i love him (ღ˘⌣˘ღ)

We've been discussing when I'm next going to visit Tuxedo Mask. We came to the conclusion that if the navy don't dick him about - read here 'send him off to sea within a timescale which will mean he's at sea in December' - then I will go to see him and meet his family in person at Christmas.

I really wish there was a way to organize this stuff now and ensure he won't be given potentially problematic orders; I need to know how my holidays are happening so I can tell my lecturers when I start back at the college, else they'll kick me off if I vanish. Wish the navy would let him book time off way in advance, I hate them for being short-notice with everything.

Oh also, we kind of chose a date for our 'anniversary' a while back - I wanted to be 'normal' and have one to tell people if they asked me - but I think we may have to move it. 4th of July is a date he gets invited everywhere. This year he spent it with me but had some guilt from his mates as a result. Don't really want to be the cause of that if I can help it.

Kamak wrote:Some people are touchy feely with friends, which sends mixed signals if that friend considers that stuff to be flirting or things that a gf/bf would do.

I would just be up front and ask her why she's being this affectionate, and if she does this kind of thing with friends and it makes you uncomfortable or makes things weird, ask her to stop.

If she doesn't, it's best to break contact before either of you end up hurt.

I don't think anyone considers french facebattling just being touchy feely with friends

I know at least two people who do, and things even more intimate without a clear "friends with benefits" goal stated. Both of which have had unwanted attention when people thought it meant more. It led one into a really bad period of time resulting in a fistfight and a restraining order.

It's... odd, for sure, but it happens. The most important thing is to be open about it, and if someone is this touchy with you, and you're uncomfortable with it, let them know it's not okay given your current relationship with the person.

Yeah, well, in France (where I live - yes, I'm a froggie) the french-facebattle is something more common than in most of other countries, so here it can easily be about being touchy-feely.

Kergan wrote:Yeah, well, in France (where I live - yes, I'm a froggie) the french-facebattle is something more common than in most of other countries, so here it can easily be about being touchy-feely.

I find it a bit hard to believe that sticking your tongue in someone's mouth is just being "touchy feely" in any country

bro

it's called french facebattling

besides, *french joke*

Oh, I don't say everybody does it or anything. Simply there are (at least where I live) a relatively huge amount of girls who french-facebattle others just because they like them. Something like 10% of the girls I know, maybe.
Anyway, the point is it's hard to define when being touchy-feely becomes ... more, as it differs from culture to culture, even from girl to girl.
In the case of the girl I'm talking about it's different, as we went ... a little further than french-facebattling.

That's just so weird to me.

Some people think making out with anyone is no big deal, some think its just fine but only if you're dating, some think its actually more intimate than having sex.

Man, I feel bad for one of my friends. I was pretty interested in her a while ago, but it never really went anywhere and I wound up with someone else. Occasionally, she'll ask how my relationship is going and it seems like she's still interested.
She's not doing anything wrong, like trying to break us up, but I still feel a bit sorry for her. Any of you guys think it'd be a good idea to talk to her about it? Expressing feelings can be a good experience even if it doesn't achieve anything, you know?

In happier news, plans for a trip to visit my ladyfriend in England are going smoothly. I just need to tell my uncle the dates and check if his offer to pay for tickets still stands. I'm so excited.

Kergan wrote:Yeah, well, in France (where I live - yes, I'm a froggie) the french-facebattle is something more common than in most of other countries, so here it can easily be about being touchy-feely.

I thought the french called french facebattling. English facebattling.

Absolutely not, why the hell would we call it that ? We just call it "embrasser" (wich is simply french for "to facebattle") or, in slang "rouler une pelle" (wich ... means nothing. I mean if you translate it litteraly it would be something like "roll a shovel". I guess it's pretty weird but, meh, it's slang).
So about this girl, turns out she just think she did a mistake this night : she likes me a lot (and she don't exclude the possiblity of falling in love with me) but she don't want to take it to rapidly, because of some ... unpleasant things that happened to her in the past. So she wants us to learn to know each other as friends before anything else.
So I think it's neither good nor bad, time will tell (for the first time, I trust myself, and it seems to have good results).

So she doesn't know her own feelings. That wouldn't be bad, were it not for the fact that she acted while being confused about her feelings. Most people sit back and reflect, not stick their tongues down people's throats.

You know, I have to disagree there. Hasty actions happen a lot, I think.

It's good that she has the hindsight and foresight to want to go slowly, though.