The Dating Stories/Progress thread

[Kergan]

Yaaaay, just learned a dumb friend of mine had the *very good* idea of asking her "do you feel sexually attracted to him ?"
Yipee, another failed case for Kergan T_T

[YCobb]

Friends are always the number one obstacle to relationships.

[creakyAccordion]

Just so you can understand what is following : in 18 years i've never been loved by a girl, wich ... kind of limit the faith I have in myself, and explain the lack of experience I've got in any relationship.
I'm very troubled. I just met a girl I hadn't seen in a year, and I instantly felt a strong attraction for her ... but not love. Only fondness, and physical attraction.
And, to be honest, I don't know what to do. Should I try to know her better, in case I fall in love with her ? Should I tell her ? Should I not do anything ? Should I go out and kill some platypuses, to relase stress ?
(Oh yeah, a last little thing : tomorrow I'm going on a party, and she will be here. No need to tell you I'm a little worried about what to tell her ^^)

If you actually immediately fall in love with a person you want to date there is something wrong with you

fondness and attraction is like where it should start

[Kergan]

No, usually with me it starts with liking someone, then the fondness and the attraction developp as I learn to know her further. It's rare that it happens just like that, on someone you haven't seen in half a year (and even before that I didn't know her very well).

[luroberto]

Some guy out there loves me.
I just wish the one person that I knew liked me wasn't a woman.

But I'll find him.

Or he'll find me.

Someday.

Just gotta keep looking.

[Reyo]

No, usually with me it starts with liking someone, then the fondness and the attraction developp as I learn to know her further. It's rare that it happens just like that, on someone you haven't seen in half a year (and even before that I didn't know her very well).

The messed up thing about dating is I've only ever noticed possitive female attention when I've stopped actively looking into a dating life. I thonk it's about confidence. When you trip over your own heels looking for love, you give off an air of "lack of confidence", or at least that's what it must be. You're just like me, confident in pretty much everything BUT our love lives. The best advice I can think to give is that you find a girl that makes it where you don't have to try and actively "date" her...you two just...do.

[Kergan]

Yeah, I guess you're mostly right about the self-confidence thing.
However, I didn't quite understant the advice you gave me at the end of your post. The sentence

a girl that makes it where you don't have to try and actively "date" her

deeply confuse me (sorry about that, I still have some little problems understanding English, and this sentence, you have to admit, is a bit tricky).

[Tammerath]

I think he means that the two of you should want to just be together, without having to call it a "date". You just enjoy being in each other's company.

[Kergan]

I see what you mean, but it's not just about enjoying the other's company. I'm a very touchy kind of guy, I always need to hug or massage the other, and those are thing you can rarely do when you're not "dating" a person (and I won't even talk about facebattling). So yeah, if I was a well-balanced person in a perfect world it would work, but last time I tried that it did ... for two weeks before I stopped it and confessed her.
Anyway in less than twelve hours I'll be next to her, and I'll see what happens.

[SaintCrazy]

I know some guys who hug girls all the time, even if they're just friends or already dating somebody else, it's not too weird as long as you and the hugged friend are comfortable with it.

Again, just start building friendly relations with her and see what happens.

[YCobb]

This is some universal advice for any guy who worries about how to approach a girl. You should just befriend some girls. Don't make excuses like "well I can't just befriend her, I have a crush on her." There are other girls, go become friends with some that you're not romantically interested in. This won't make ladies start falling into your arms, but it'll make you a lot less of 'that creepy nerd guy'

If you see girls as some sort of "other" group, then you're, well, seeing them as some sort of other group. This isn't strictly dating advice, but knowing how to just treat girls like people (instead of some weird other species you have to court) is pretty important for building relationships of any kind.


Same would go for all you gals wanting to get your mack on at the dudes, but I don't see much of that in this thread. Seems us nerd dudes are way more likely to be awkward lonely losers on the Internet about it, who's have guessed :V

((I know this post seems hypocritical, since I'm saying to treat girls like people but still talking about "how to talk to girls." I'm only making the distinction because dudes very rarely have trouble treating other dudes like people))

[Nachalnik]

dave went to work tonight and i miss him and i feel sad and lonely and i wish he was here

i'm quickly losing my new bitter demeanour

[Zang]

Soooo...i Uh, met this girl that's really cool. Introduced by a mutual friend on the fourth,we've started hangin out a bit lately, last night we went to the movies, saw despicable me 2 (shit was golden), today we went to a new dairyqueen that just opened up here in my town and I treated her to lunch, then we left my truck and she drove me around some backroads to show me some neato stuff i didnt know was there! Just wasting time or whatever, and then we went to my place and watched a movie on netflix,

we're supposed to be goin to the beach this tuesday

Im not really sure how to pick up on, ya know, romantic signs or whatever, so uh, I dunno!

[Kergan]

Okay, I really don't know what to think. I saw that girl yesterday, and she told me she was in love with another friend. Then she hugged me, and french-facebattled me. Many times.
I must be dumb, but I have a hard time understanding what she really wants.

[Cafall]

She's fuckin' with you or she's emotionally unstable; either way, keep your distance if not break contact altogether