The Dating Stories/Progress thread

[Nachalnik]

i thought i was over my ex boyfriend but judging how i've started crying everyday again i guess not

[Nancymaker]

Reyo: My advice would be (granted I am not exactly well versed with the ladies but this is what I would do for a guy), go in on a quiet day and order a sandwich (probably a footlong) to eat whilst sitting in. Take the time when there aren't other customers to chat to her a bit more. Maybe chat about films or nearby restaurants, to establish a mutual interest. If you feel comfortable enough, ask her as your leaving if she wants to see a film/go to a restaurant.

If you feel like going on a date straight away is too big a deal, you could say that she is a cool dude and ask her if she has a facebook (assuming you do too). At that point you have the oppurtunity to talk to her out of a work environment. From there it'd be easier and slightly less spaghetti to organise meeting up.


tbh tho it's quite hard to offer advice on this sort of thing cause only someone who is there can decide what's appropriate or not appropriate to say or do. If sitting in and making conversation would be awkward and forced (due to other customers or the table being miles away), then probably don't do that. Just do what seems sensible and natural. Although I will say avoid doing any physical touching until you're either on a date or hanging out cause that's a bit forward imo.

[TerraChimaera]

I think it's a little too soon to be claiming you both love each other.

Infatuation is much more likely.

Mmkay
That I can accept

[creakyAccordion]

I went to the movies with my parents because I got a 25 dollar gift card but I forgot to bring it so my mom says "Well maybe you could use it for a date" and I laughed so hard what has happened to my life

[Nachalnik]

i totally think i'm falling for this dave guy

i have mixed feelings about this

[D-vid]

Go for it, Daves rule.

[TerraChimaera]

What about Davids
(wink wink)

[Kamak]

Go for it, Daves rule.

Why are you courting Nacha?

You didn't even use a fake name. Like Mave.

Coulda been named Maverick, son.

[Kergan]

Just so you can understand what is following : in 18 years i've never been loved by a girl, wich ... kind of limit the faith I have in myself, and explain the lack of experience I've got in any relationship.
I'm very troubled. I just met a girl I hadn't seen in a year, and I instantly felt a strong attraction for her ... but not love. Only fondness, and physical attraction.
And, to be honest, I don't know what to do. Should I try to know her better, in case I fall in love with her ? Should I tell her ? Should I not do anything ? Should I go out and kill some platypuses, to relase stress ?
(Oh yeah, a last little thing : tomorrow I'm going on a party, and she will be here. No need to tell you I'm a little worried about what to tell her ^^)

[SaintCrazy]

Get to know her? Make conversation? See if you guys have anything in common? Maybe even throw a couple of compliments her way?

You don't have to seduce or perform ritualistic mating dances to talk to women, you guys.

[YCobb]

But 4chan tells me the ritualistic mating dances are my only chance at avoiding the fried zone :[

[Cori]

Whatever you do, refrain from getting touchy-feely, no matter what kind of physical attraction you're feeling. That is one of the best ways to creep a gal out.

[Barabba]

my only chance at avoiding the fried zone :[

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

Okay, here's what I did with a girl I liked: flirted with her a lot. Two months later, she professed her love for me. So it worked, I guess.

[YCobb]

If you work in the fast food industry (or the sun) it is a legitimate concern

More seriously, Kergen, have you got the means to go on a date? Like a ride and cheddar and whatnot?
I don't expect anyone here to recommend it because we all seem to be the sorts who want to get to know someone first, but it's not unheard of to just ask someone out right away. You could try to strike up a conversation, and if it goes well then you could ask her out to a movie or lunch or something.
This also helps you not get too invested - if you spend months working up to it and she rejects you, you'll probably be more upset than if you get it out of the way early.

[Cori]

That's not going to happen in most cases. Every person has a different comfort zone. For example, flirting makes me incredibly uncomfortable because I have no interest in romantic relationships.

EDIT: in response to Barabba