The Dating Stories/Progress thread

[Nachalnik]

sometimes i feel bad about being nearly 21 and not being married yet

[Shad]

My dad's almost 60, my mum's almost 50, and they're not married

[Kamak]

Shit, get it together, Le Dad.

[Omnithea]

sometimes i feel bad about being nearly 21 and not being married yet

Hah. Don't worry. I'm a few years older and chronically single. Forget marriage you still have the whole career/living location/etc. to worry about.

[Nachalnik]

i'm starting to think watching loads of disney princess movies and playing with loads of wedding play sets as a kid has had a negative affect on me as a adult

[Barabba]

Guy was a girl.
She liked me too even though she knew I was gay.
She let me flirt with her a but before she told me. It came up casually And I called her a guy, so she corrected me.
But... She honestly liked me too, and this is the first time anyone has ever liked me.
If I was straight we could have happened. It would have worked.

(...)

We like each other but we can't be together.
Fuck man.

Gender and sexual orientation do not exist when there is love~
You should try giving it a try.

[luroberto]

No, we talked for a while and we have things sorted out.

And even if I wanted to give us a try, I just CAN'T feel romantic or sexual feelings for a female. I had some of them for her for a few days but they died down as we talked more.

[Madican]

You are not your orientation, not a static program. Your feelings are organic and fluid, that's how humans are. Saying you absolutely cannot feel anything for a certain type of human is arbitrarily limiting yourself when you're not even old enough to be locking on to an orientation for sure yet.

[luroberto]

Okay that age thing is bullshit.
I know who I am.

I don't find women appealing, I never have, and I probably never will.

It's who I am.

[hotb]

How old are you anyway

[luroberto]

18 in a month.

[hotb]

Yeah you seem old enough

"Saying you absolutely cannot feel anything for a certain type of human is arbitrarily limiting yourself" is odd advice coming from you Madican

But anyway Luro your problem does seem to be in your head, in that you're making it for yourself from worrying too much about sexuality.

[luroberto]

I'm not worried about my sexuality.
Me and Soma talked everything over for three days straight, and it's fine.

She's a great person, but when I see HER, I can't see myself falling in love with her, or doing anything romantic with her.

I see her being my fag hag and just having a good time with her.

*Note: I do not condone use of the word fag unless used in that way because I find it really funny*
*I mean come on, it rhymes*

[Reyo]

Human sexuality comes from the hypothalamus. It's as set in your brain matter as fight or flight, or the need to breath. While the brain can change, that doesn't mean we should be dismissing things based on the idea that the human mind is "fluid." If anything, the human brain tries its damndest to be the reverse of that. Seriously, why do you think it takes months to go through most psychatric therapies? And this is talking about a DISORDER, which is something the human mind suffers from. Human sexuality is something as natural and defining to who you are as your hobby of reading books or video games, or your natural love for whatever subject you major in in school. It's like that even to the point where there's an entire friggen movement to get people to stop trying to change that about homosexuals.

Guys, luroberto is a homosexual in the same way I'm a heterosexual. He sees other guys in the same way I see women. Telling him to look at this girl romantically is the same thing as telling me to look at any other guy romantically, which is something I'd probably not only feel physically uncomfortable with, but probably half resent you for.

What you guys are doing, just from an outside perspective, is trying to turn a gay person stright, which is on par with the lunacy that is any common religious "straight camp."

[Barabba]

I don't care about his sexuality, I just think that love is cute and that no opportunity for it to shine should be wasted.

It's cool that you're still friends though, congrats on that.