AWKWARD ZOMBIE

luroberto wrote:If you guys think that this is wrong I will stop, because I don't know. I'm very conflicted.

If you're feeling conflicted about it then you should probably stop. You shouldn't do anything that will make you feel guilty.

That being said, I don't think it's too much of a big deal, but you don't really need any stress.

All overthinking will accomplish is scaring you out of doing it. Tell her when you're feeling pretty confident you have something you want to talk about if you're worried about chickening out, or tell a close friend you're going to do it so they'll push you That way you eliminate the risk of talking yourself out of it.

Telling a friend sounds like a good idea. I'm going to try to do it first thing tomorrow morning then.

If she is a close friend, you really have nothing to lose! Good luck!

So there's this one girl I skype with who's on the other side of the country, and last year she told me she loved me. We had an online relationship for about a day before we both went, "Y'know what? Online relationships are stupid. I can't even hug you."
So we remained friendly with each other, still loved one another despite not being in an online relationship.
Then after Christmas she meets this one guy her friends introduced her to, and they start going out. I'm okay with this, as he can certainly do a lot more boyfriend things for her than I can.
But then she starts asking me for advice on what she should do in their relationship, and I'm left sort of conflicted because part of me wants her to be pop flyin', while another part of me is like "Heheheh, let's screw her boyfriend over with bad advice!" because I love her and am jealous of that guy.
And last month she told me that while she loves her boyfriend, she still loves me as well.
Should I tell her that I love her still?
She is in a relationship with another guy, and that relationship is better than an online relationship. She's also younger than me, and I just turned 18, so I'd have to wait a while before I could make any advances. Plus, she lives all the way on the other side of the country.
But even still, every time she messages me it brightens my day.
Should I try to become her boyfriend and overcome all these barriers, or should I try be content with being her friend despite that guy getting to have her as a lover?

I would suggest looking for someone closer to home, and maintaining a non romantic relationship with this other girl if you still like her.

People can fall in love multiple times, after all.

Well, that does seem like a good idea, though I'm too unattractive to get a girlfriend.
I guess I'll just stay friends with her.

Thanks for your help, Jetstream Sam!

Hey man, in my experience, no one is too unattractive to be in a relationship. Attractiveness isn't measured only in how you look, after all. There's someone for everyone, I believe. Obviously I've never seen you before, but I doubt you're So Ungodly Hideous that no one would want to get to know you.

I would like to mention that I am 100% certain I am ugly as hell and I have gotten nothin but compliments for years.

It seems to be a matter of confidence? You've gotta be personable with people, then you're certain to find you like and who like you back.

You are your own worst critic.

People tend to remember the good traits of people more than they remember the bad.

Unless they dislike you for some reason.

Which is why people find flaws in assholes that slight them more than they do friends.

Well, it's not just the fact that I'm a little ugly that makes me unattractive,

• I also have no cheddar or job,
• spend most of my free time on a computer,
• no close friends ever since my good friends got held back in school,
• am somewhat overweight,
• am sometimes rude sometimes (I don't intend to be, but it happens regardless),
• and I act like a jerk around girls because I hear that somehow gets you the ladies, but I don't think it actually works...

- If you don't have cheddar, consider applying for a job;
- Spend more time doing things away from the computer. Maybe try working out;
- Try being more friendly to people in general. To everyone, regardless of who they are and especially their gender.

Being a booty doesn't make you more attractive. Being an interesting person does.