AWKWARD ZOMBIE

So I talked to the girl, and apparently I'm not doing anything wrong! She also informed me that she's pretty blunt, so she'll let me know if there's a problem. So....sorry for the premature flipout on my part, guys. I should probably explain. I've had people in the past who I've made uncomfortable(mostly in high school), and instead of just telling me the problem or asking for space, they opt to just try and avoid me or not bring up the issue until they end up getting mad about it and I end up confused and hurt. My first girlfriend did that. I didn't even realize she wanted space, or I didn't catch on if she was trying to hint at it. I didn't even consider that there was a problem until one of her friends, who's normally kind of rude, walked up to me one day and just said, "I'm going to be nice to you for the next week." One week later, Sailor Moon broke up with me. So after multiple similar occasions, scenarios like the one I've been dealing with have left me a bit paranoid. I start wondering if there's a problem really early on and think I'm picking up on signals that don't exist in reality.

I'm glad there's no problem between you guys.

Marcato wrote:So I talked to the girl, and apparently I'm not doing anything wrong! She also informed me that she's pretty blunt, so she'll let me know if there's a problem. So....sorry for the premature flipout on my part, guys. I should probably explain. I've had people in the past who I've made uncomfortable(mostly in high school), and instead of just telling me the problem or asking for space, they opt to just try and avoid me or not bring up the issue until they end up getting mad about it and I end up confused and hurt. My first girlfriend did that. I didn't even realize she wanted space, or I didn't catch on if she was trying to hint at it. I didn't even consider that there was a problem until one of her friends, who's normally kind of rude, walked up to me one day and just said, "I'm going to be nice to you for the next week." One week later, Sailor Moon broke up with me. So after multiple similar occasions, scenarios like the one I've been dealing with have left me a bit paranoid. I start wondering if there's a problem really early on and think I'm picking up on signals that don't exist in reality.

I...what...?

You should be nice to everyone all the time!

One would think so.

I don't want to date right now and I probably won't for a long time but I'm still worried I'll date a guy and the same kind of thing will happen again.

I found it hard to trust people before but oh boy it's impossible now.

I actually have a reason now.

That isn't a good reason at all. I understand that 'once bitten, twice shy', but someone betraying your trust does not mean it will happen again.

I agree with Great Handsome Oppressor. The actions of your ex do not apply to everyone else.

I… I'm not Kamak…
But I understand that you'd like some time to yourself, Nachalnik.

I can't read

Just be a little cautious in the future just in case. I wouldn't advertise that you had an ex-boyfriend cheat on you (my ex did that and it just attracted the kind of people she was trying to avoid), and maybe have some friends to keep you grounded (not to constantly say that he's terrible or whatnot, but if something's happening that they see, they can keep you from being head over heels and look at the situation).

A little break from dating is good because you need to build yourself up again to keep from falling headfirst into another relationship, because that's not a healthy way to start them, but abstaining from dating just because you're afraid you'll be cheated on isn't going to help. That fear will never go away because it will niggle about in your head and you can't fix it because it's based on the other person's actions. You just gotta push through it, and hopefully find someone you can trust that can help push that fear aside.

Told her how I felt. She still isn't sure if she is ready for a relationship.
Not really upset or anything like that though, just getting how strongly I feel off of my chest feels so much better.

Boyfriend's gone to Hawaii for two weeks. I'm trying to decide how sad it is that I feel so lost not having him around. We've been in our current routine of seeing each other and talking and playing games for five months now; I have a hard time breaking routines.

At least I'm getting a metric booty-ton of pictures, aw yisss.

I sent my lady friend's birthday presents in the mail today.

This is so exciting.

So there's a really cute girl in the class that I TA (she's actually older than me the way TAing works at my school is weird) and I asked her out back in like November but she said she couldn't because she had a boyfriend

So I'm considering asking her if she's still taken and if not I'm going to ask her if she wants to go to the dance with me

so we'll see

I don't really get the theory "Opposites Attract"

I'd much rather like a person that I have things in common with (Oppose to them lying about it so that they seem more interesting)