AWKWARD ZOMBIE

Marcato, as someone who's been in your position, I can honestly say that the best peice of advice to stop that, despite how cliche, and wrongly misconstrewed it is, is to "stop looking" (so to speak). Sometimes, when you're "actively looking" for a girlfriend, you tend to do what Cori is suggesting was wrong. It seems the more you try to "look", the more you differentiate the girl you're interested in from a pwerson you would be completely neutral with, and despite it being in a possitive light, being differentiated like that sends a red flag. All they think is "This guy is treating me different......why?"

What's more, when you "stop looking" you have more time to work on yourself, which builds confidence, and seems to be like an aphrodisiac for pretty much everyone. Seriously, the most attention I've ever gotten from the opposite sex has been from when I walk around generally not giving a daisies if I end the day/week/month in a relationship.

Reyo wrote:What's more, when you "stop looking" you have more time to work on yourself, which builds confidence, and seems to be like an aphrodisiac for pretty much everyone.

That. That! What he said. Up there. That is good advice for everyone.
Spend your time working on bettering yourself instead of getting in good with others, you get better results when you're the flame not the moth.

I didn't do what I wanted to do because of everything that happened tonight (see: my roommate and her girlfriend breaking up, possibly partly because of me?) and I didn't feel like it would be right to possibly start a relationship after all that, or that I had as much mental strength to brush off the possible rejection that I had earlier in the day.

Or it could be because I chickened out because I was afraid she'd say yes then take it back. I'm honestly not really sure.

I will say, to Marcato's credit, I've gotten brushed off by people when I'm not looking for anything either. I like socializing, even if it's with someone new or just on the bus when we're stuck in traffic and going to be there for 30 minutes.

It's kinda odd when you have a nice conversation the first time with someone, and then suddenly, the next time, they seem hesitant or whatnot. I mean, I can understand it a bit on the girl's part, because I'm a guy and they don't exactly know that I'm gay and my friendliness isn't a "man, I'm only talking to you to fuck", and I've kinda gotten used to females being a lot more reserved around me because of the difference in gender, but it's kinda odd when guys have a bit of a cold shoulder to me (though occasionally it eases up if I just keep up casual conversation regularly, even if it's just talking about classes). I can only imagine how bad this is going to be if I'm actually attracted to someone and trying to drop hints.

It just kinda feels shitty at times because I just enjoy socializing and I feel people hold me away for some reason, but other people become fast friends/significant others with no big hiccups. It makes me feel like I'm socializing wrong, and it's just kinda upsetting, but no one's saying anything, and the few times I've come out and asked people if they had problems with me, it apparently freaked them out that I was thinking about this or something and made things awkward.

So that girl I got it on with who then immediately got back with her ex?

She posted this on Facebook a few minutes ago.

All I want is someone to romance me, but be respectful, have time for just us, but also show me off to his friends, not be afraid to be affectionate, but not to much PDA, be close to me, but give me my space, treat me nicely, but don't get mad if I'm in a bad mood and treat you badly, Give me presents for no reason, take me on random dates just for the fun of it, tell me i'm pretty all the time, but never expect a thank you and most importantly, always admit you're wrong when you're wrong and always say i'm right when i'm right.. I mean, does that seem to much to ask for?

hahahaha

Yeah okay. Good luck with that Trixie.

Gryewolf wrote:Yeah okay. Good luck with that Trixie.

Don't worry, there'll always be a Timmy Turner.

The girl I wanted to take to prom started dating the guy my sister is crushing on. And he knows about it.

Clearly you should take your sister to prom to make them jealous.

Wait...

This is a sad day for the Runes siblings.

There's only one thing to do.

Create an elaborate scheme to get revenge on both.

Don't forget Marcato, sometimes people can just be weird. Some people think everyone is hitting on them. I've had uncomfortable conversations where afterwards I felt that maybe I said something wrong, only to hear from friends that the other person is just awkward sometimes.

Be the person you want to be and you find interesting, others will think the same.

I'm freaking out about how I'm going to tell my friend.
I mean, she knows that I fancy her, and I know she fancies me, but I'm not sure if she would be willing to do long distance until I can move. I recently realized that I am willing to take the risk in it, but I don't want to ruin the possibility of anything in the future if she says she isn't, then feels like we can't be as close friends because of my feelings.
I just can't wait anymore.

It's always worth the shot. As long as you communicate your concerns and listen to hers. Let her know that her friendship is still valuable to you and you understand if the difficulties might be too much for her. Best of luck.

I know this is a double post but I kinda wanted to bump the thread.

If anyone feels up to giving me some advice about some of my relationship stuff(it's kinda complicated, or else I would just post it here), I'd really appreciate it if you could PM me. Nobody's obligated to, I just thought I should see if I can get some second opinions rather than try to figure things out on my own, you know?