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After three years of confusing feelings on both sides I think I'm ready to just go all in with my lady friend. We both fancy each other, though I'm not sure just how much she fancies me, but we're both not in the best place for a relationship at the moment.
After weeks of internal debate I've decided that I think it is worth the risk to talk about actually starting something.
I've never felt so strongly towards someone before. Sunday will be the day. Besides, even if she doesn't want to do that, she's still an amazing friend.

I think I'm falling for someone else other than my ex-boyfriend and I just feel really terrible for some reason

I have some sweet feelings towards someone, and they might feel the same c:

Sorry Willow I'm just not that into witches

TerraChimera wrote:Love and Sexuality things!

I don't have a great deal more to add except for re-emphasising caution. When I realised I was gay I was 18 years old and I'd been muddling through a distinct LACK of feelings of attraction until I went to University. Be careful about making any hasty conclusions about someone who you have not known for terribly long and also, crucially, have not met face to face. Emotional attraction is obviously extremely important, but do you find male figures physically attractive? It is quite possible that you are crushing heavily on this guys brain, but not he himself.

I know everyone's experiences are different so I'm not saying that you're wrong because it didn't go that way for me. But you are quite young and the teenage years involve an immense amount of development in all aspects. It's nice to see someone with such an open mind about the path their sexuality may be taking though.

Nachalnik wrote:I think I'm falling for someone else other than my ex-boyfriend and I just feel really terrible for some reason

Nach, I think the biggest thing you'd have to worry about is the risk that you're rushing into things because you just got out of a relationship, and not because you like the guy.

That's not a reason to not give the guy a chance though. Just take things slow and try to enjoy life. If you're feeling any sort of negative feelings, the best explanation I could think of is that maybe you're feeling guilty, which is normal, but ultimately a feeling you're going to have to get over.

Nachalnik wrote:I think I'm falling for someone else other than my ex-boyfriend and I just feel really terrible for some reason

It's already been said, but just take it slow. Eventually, you can hopefully feel strongly enough about this guy to move past any lingering regret or guilt you might be harboring.

Sorry to pop-in unannounced.
(No, I'm not a Spy.)

Progress: Well, he came right out and said he loved me.
I asked- he's completely sure.

I melted into a small puddle of happiness at that moment.

However, he did raise a valid point; maybe I'm not gay, but simply bi or pan. I'm willing to bet, if I'm not actally gay, I'm probably pan.

CORRECTION: He's bi, not gay. There's a whole lot of difference between the two.

Man, you're 13.
There is so much time to decide that stuff!
Not to diminish you in any way, as I respect you, but I don't believe someone can TRULY figure out their sexuality until they are 15.

Well, I guess you still are contemplating it.
Wait shit.

Never mind.
Disregard what I just said.

But 13 is still too young to be in a relationship. You should still think boys have cooties.
God.

xkcd's age-relationship formula says 14 is the best age to start looking for a relationship.

My biggest thing is that he shouldn't be pressuring you into thinking you're a certain sexuality. We know he's into you, but really, it should be up to you how you feel about him and how you feel about your sexuality, and he really doesn't need to be trying to convince you that you're really gay, bi, pan, or whatever. That puts stress on you and makes you second guess yourself or think "well, I like him and he seems to think I'm gay... I don't want to disappoint him" and bad things can happen from there.

If he loves you, he can, at the very least, wait until you can figure things out.

And whereas I said previously that he could look older than he actually is, keep in mind, the reverse can be true too. I'm not one to jump on this ship, but keep in mind, he could be older than he presents himself as and is trying to find someone young. The fact that he seems to be moving in on you quickly is kinda red-flag worthy, but at this point, there's no way to tell if this is the case or he's just head over heels about you.

I just don't want to see you pressured into making a mistake. It's okay to be wrong about your sexuality, I mean, I dated when I thought I was straight, but you should still be educated about your choices. You don't want to make this decision, then realize "whoops, I just liked you as a friend" and cause unneeded stress on either side.

I am honestly not comfortable at the idea of thirteen-year-old kids being in a 'serious' relationship with one another. You've still got a lot of years of hormones and confusion ahead of you, and there's a big question in terms of maturity for both parties involved.

Cori wrote:I am honestly not comfortable at the idea of thirteen-year-old kids being in a 'serious' relationship with one another. You've still got a lot of years of hormones and confusion ahead of you, and there's a big question in terms of maturity for both parties involved.

The person is question, according to TC, looks to be about 18-20, which is kind of an ambiguous age appearance-wise (I mean, fuck, when I was a senior in high school, we had a 6'5" freshman who looked like a senior. He even got invited to a senior party and everyone was shocked as shit when his mom dropped him off). So he could be much older or younger.

I think I'd be more comfortable with 13 year olds being in a relationship online than a 4+ year age difference in teenagers, especially when the younger end is as young as 13.

I'll be the first to say I don't really care about age as a concept, since it's up to people to decide, but I don't like the power the older party can have over the situation.

Vax wrote:Sorry Willow I'm just not that into witches

Witches are totally into you though. It'd be hard to rip your heart out otherwise.

Kamak wrote:The person is question, according to TC, looks to be about 18-20,

WHOA WHOA WHOA.
HOLD THE PHONE.

This kind of changes everything.
Because this is statutory rape.
Illegal.
Well, I certainly don't condone this.