The Dating Stories/Progress thread

[Dire]

Sure you do, don't talk to him. It's not gonna get you what you really want anyway.

[Reyo]

Nach, sometimes people aren't deserving of forgiveness. This is one of those cases. What he did was both morally, and socially wrong and he is one of those people who are undeserving of your forgiveness. You can do so, but it would best be done to give yourself peace of mind more than anything else.

If you call him to say "I forgive and miss you" the only thing it'll do is tell him that what he did was OK, which is incorrect.

[Kamak]

Besides which, you shouldn't forgive him until he at least tries to make right what he did to you.

You don't forgive someone when they apparently feel nothing about the obvious pain they've caused you.

You can forgive him when he apologizes well enough, though, even then, I think it would be best if you two ceased communication.

[Supaaku]

Even then, I think you said that you were out of contact with the guy for nearly 4 years? You've gone without talking to him for that long before. If he doesn't apologize for misleading you, I'd say he's not worth talking to. Really what you need to do is probably spend some time away from the computer so you don't get tempted to initiate conversation with him.

[AngelicSongx]

Noff and I are going to have our 1 year and a half anniversary on the 31st/1st! (Time zone weirdness, so we sometimes celebrate on both days.) I need your help, though, AZ! What should we do for our anniversary? Movie or anime suggestions would be appreciated too.

[Kamak]

You should break up on the first.

April Fools.

[TheStranger]

You should break up on the first.

April Fools.

Its March

[Dire]

He means April First which is this Monday.

[TheStranger]

*rereads* Oh.

...I'll be in my corner

[Nachalnik]

A movie would be nice. Just pick one that you're both interested in.

Even if it turns out to be a bad movie you can have a laugh about it or something.

[Reyo]

There's some B rated Will Ferrel cowboy movie on netflix if you're looking for cheap larfs.

[Lotharu]

Last time I internet dated, Netflix let us both sit our Xbox avatars in a kinda movie like environment when we both watched something. I don't know if they still let you do that though.

[Nachalnik]

wow i think i did the stupidest fucking thing

when we were still talking i told my ex-boyfriend that i didn't want to be mad or bitter about what happened and that i just wanted us to both be pop flyin' one day but yesterday i was really angry about the whole thing again and i wrote him another e-mail where i said i basically took everything back

and he actually gave me a nice reply back and then i kind of realised "wow that fucking stupid of me" so i said i was sorry about that and that i was just hurt and that this is kind of hard to deal with and i didn't mean to say that and i said we should try to be friends again like he wanted and i basically haven't heard from him since

i'm 100% sure he's avoiding me as well which makes me feel hundred times worse and now i'm anxious and a emotional wreck again

i really fucked up

[Reyo]

And the lesson you learned from all of this is that when we tell you either to, or not to do something, you should maybe probably follow it...

Any time a relationship ends where one person hurt the other in a horrible way, the hurt party does none of the initiation of further communication. Only the party who did the hurting does to apolagize for being a jackass.

The problem is now you're in a pickle. You have established yourself as bitter and angry, and he's established himself as cool and collected. If there ever was a need for a "winner", as terrible as that sounds, of a breakup......it'd be him.

[Nachalnik]

I said I was sorry though! And I said I was sorry for a bunch of other things as well.

I'm want to be friends just like how he wants to be friends.

I really can't see where this is going wrong.