The Dating Stories/Progress thread

[Dr. Glocktor]

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But still, can the topic just be dropped?

Both you have valid points but you're bodaciously just going in circles of 'HE SHOULDN'T SHE SHOULDN'T' and none of it is improving CN's situation

If she had said upfront that it was a one time fling, then he's in the wrong for assuming otherwise

If she didn't, then it was a dick move on her part to leave him hanging and go bone another guy immediately after

jesus

[Shad]

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Glocktor, please don't assume people don't know how opinions and subjectivity work.

[Dr. Glocktor]

Then I apologize for trying to get that point across in an excessively poor way

However, my other point still stands

None of this is helping CN and I doubt continuing this will

[Shad]

It's still a discussion about dating, though, isn't it? Though, it's true that the gist of it seems to be, "talk to people to avoid problems".

[Cafall]

It's now less a discussion of CN's personal situation, and more about what rules of conduct should one follow should they wish to sleep around

[Nachalnik]

I know that I'm going to marry Tuxedo Mask one day and even though Tuxedo Mask keeps talking about us living together in a proper house and our future together I still get worried he doesn't feel the same way.

But I know that's just my "oh no this is too good to be true there must be something wrong" anxiety kicking in.

I'm trying to ignore that but it's hard sometimes.

[[Citation Needed]]

We did that thing everyone was talking about. What was it again...?

COMMUNICATIONS

COMMUNICATION

"communication"

oh right that

Anyway, she's at home over the weekend, so we're going to discuss things in person on Monday when she gets back.

Also, partially unrelated story time:
One of my friends stopped by my room to see if my roommate was here (roommate has an ID, the honesty of which is considerably lacking). Roommate was out. Now, this guy is also known in the same social circle as me as "one of the virgins". I told him that his sort of ex (I don't think they were ever really together?) jokingly said she was surprised I beat him to losing my V-card (as my roommate put it), since my friend has been trying to much, much harder.

(note: I do not now nor did I ever consider this a competiton, it is all in jest.) Anyway, I told him and he laughed and then I showed him a picture of my lady on Facebook, and he told me he was gonna one-up me with this girl he started talking to. He said to look her up on Facebook. Her name was Kathleen Somethingorother. I typed it in, and clicked the first result without looking.

The page that came up was for this 40-50 year old heavy set woman with wavy/curly shoulder-length black hair. We nearly died laughing. Oh god it was the hardest I've laughed in ages. After two minutes, my friend regained the ability to breathe and said "It's CATHLEEN, with a C."

we managed to get to the right page eventually, but oh daisies I am still laughing about that.

[Nachalnik]

i hate how irrationally jealous i get at times

it's over small things that don't even matter or things that are just misunderstandings

and it's not like normal jealousy it's like some horrible feeling of despair and anxiety and extreme nausea and i have no idea why i do it and after i calm down again i wonder "oh why did i get so worked up?"

i never used to be so jealous

Tuxedo Mask thinks it's cute so at least i don't have to worry about him hating me or anything

[Reyo]

Are you purposefully taking the most foolish way to put it, D-Vid? Yes, I think that after sex with a person you weren't in a relationship with before, it's better to ask what's up with the two of you. I don't know what was what with CN and his ladyfriend, since he kept the details scarce (which is not to say he should say more), but I don't think assuming that you are in a relationship after a session of bed-shaking is wise.

And it's not even a gender thing, it's extremely dangerous when it comes to issues like STIs and unwanted pregnancies.

People are free to have sex with whoever they want how soon they want, but there's such a thing as caution...or from CN's point of view, discretion.

I think proper use of a condom helps with these problems. I also don't think a lady that has a lot of sex is necessarily incautious about it - I really don't see how the two are related.

It's a point of how close the two events are. Having sex with two different people in the span of a week is a lot different than having sex with two different people in the spa of 24 hours.

It gives insight on their attitude of sex. It's the difference between sex being is casual thing and it being something to be taken at least a little bit seriously.

[Badfish]

Going on a date Monday, the first one in like ~3 months. Assuming she doesn't skip, that is. Seems to happening a lot lately.

[creakyAccordion]

Gonna go on a date with this cute girl I do shows with and when I told me friend he called her a bitch and shit and uh

it was a little awkward

"you WILL regret this" was the weirdest thing he said

[Reyo]

Sounds like he either had a thing with her which went sour, or he's got some feelings for her and is "subconsciously" trying to sabotage it for you.

[SaintCrazy]

He didn't even give a reason why she was a bad person? I mean, that doesn't sound like he did a good job of convincing you, so it might not be that big a deal.

It'd at least be worth it to get to know her.

[Terraem]

It's a point of how close the two events are. Having sex with two different people in the span of a week is a lot different than having sex with two different people in the spa of 24 hours.

It gives insight on their attitude of sex. It's the difference between sex being is casual thing and it being something to be taken at least a little bit seriously.

It may not be nice, but it's also not for you to decide how much it means to a person and how they should handle it.

I agree with Great Handsome Oppressor and this entire argument comes perilously close to slut shaming.

[Kamak]

While I don't agree with Reyo, I find calling this slut shaming a bit too far.

No one should have to live up to a personal or societal pressure in the way they view their sex life.

All the same, people are allowed their opinions of certain ideas of sex lives. That doesn't mean they should use it as reason to lead a crusade against others, but you cannot police how people feel about things like one-night stands.

Live and let live. She's allowed her standards for sex (though I'd personally agree that a bit more communication might have been a good thing, though I'm not one of the two involved so there's likely more than we know going on. After all, miscommunication can be caused by either or both sides), and people are allowed to not like those standards so long as they're not going around being a dick about it.