The Dating Stories/Progress thread

[Reyo]

Really?

Then why were you worried that he wanted to turn it into a date?

[Tatzel]

Where did I say that I was worried that he wanted to turn it into a date? I'm only mentioning how I'm worried that he's interested in me in general.

[Reyo]

What was it that made you think he was interested in you?

[Tetrunes]

One of prom girl's best friends is drastically trying to cut ties with her and I really hope it isn't because of me

[Tatzel]

What was it that made you think he was interested in you?

Him talking me up what kind of video games I'm playing because he overheard a conversation I had with some other guys, and then trying to find a day to play stuff together, and because he enjoyed it, he was eager to do something with me again and he really hopes that this weekend works despite some troubles showing up, he's really excited for it.
And then today he asked me if I was okay if we'd ever go to the cinema together.


As I said a few times already, I'm probably really just thinking and worrying too much about it and it's just harmless. But, you know, what if.

[Reyo]

What was it that made you think he was interested in you?

Him talking me up what kind of video games I'm playing because he overheard a conversation I had with some other guys, and then trying to find a day to play stuff together, and because he enjoyed it, he was eager to do something with me again and he really hopes that this weekend works despite some troubles showing up, he's really excited for it.
And then today he asked me if I was okay if we'd ever go to the cinema together.


As I said a few times already, I'm probably really just thinking and worrying too much about it and it's just harmless. But, you know, what if.

Ok, so there are multiple factors involved. Individually, they're completely insignificant. Hell, even now they're insignificant. Still though, do you not enjoy spending time with him or something? It sounds like this isn't a case of "random guy asked me to the movies" and more like "guy I've hung out with a few times asked me to the movies."

Regardless, find out more for sure before you start acting differently around him and potentially ruin something that was perfectly harmless to begin with.

That's just me though, and personally I'm not one to worry when people are interested in me. I see it as a good thing. It means I'm desirable.

EDIT: Also, I'm not trying to bust your balls, I'm just a little confused by the situation.

[Dire]

Ugh, posted prematurely... bring other people to make it non date like. You mentioned something about bringing your room mate earlier.
Turning a possible date night into a group outing pretty much screams 'friends'.
So you can drop a hint in case he does think that way, and if he doesn't you haven't lost any face.

[SaintCrazy]

Hmm so I had to tell my romantic interest that we need to slow things down basically. I didn't really have time to figure out where we were in the relationship exactly.

I'm very pop flyin' with him and I care about him a lot but we were definitely rushing things. He was sad but I hope he wasn't too upset about it. :/

[Tammerath]

Hmm so I had to tell my romantic interest that we need to slow things down basically. I didn't really have time to figure out where we were in the relationship exactly.

I'm very pop flyin' with him and I care about him a lot but we were definitely rushing things. He was sad but I hope he wasn't too upset about it. :/

You gotta trim and prune plants to keep them growing properly

[SaintCrazy]

Bonsai relationships.

Except those would just exist in some weird stasis where it doesn't really grow.
I dunno.
Brb finding better metaphors

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Okay so there is this girl in my Accounting class and Economics class.

I am not attracted to her at all, I value her friendship. We don't communicate except on Tuesdays and Thursdays when we have classes together (Economics at 3:30-4:45, Accounting from 6:00-7:15), and usually we get coffee or something from Starbucks between or after classes.

I am fairly certain she likes me, but I am positive I don't like her that way.
Is there a good way to find out without making it obvious I am assuming anything, and if she does like me, how can I turn her down without making her feel terrible?

I mean with RUCKY Day coming up and everything, I feel like if I don't say anything she'll say something and ahh i don't want her to be sad.
I would like a V-Day date, too, but I want it to be someone I have feelings for, you know?

[SaintCrazy]

I think it'd be better to wait to say something until she says something, or at least until RUCKY passes.

I mean I don't know what you could say that doesn't sound bad... "Hey I'm assuming you like me, I'm just here to tell you that I don't like you that way." Really you just shouldn't assume anything at all, maybe she just thinks you're a good friend.

[Dire]

You'll have to let her down either way, may as well let her choose the timing. Hell, she might be hoping you say something on the 14th. Perhaps by letting it pass without saying anything you might be giving her a clue.

[Reyo]

And ifs she's the one who says something on the 14th, you'll have that answer.

Win win.

[[Citation Needed]]

She walked a bit out of her way just to continue the conversation with me after class - we live on opposite ends of the campus.

When I was like "Yup heading back to my dorm now, have lots of homework, goodnight!" she looked pretty disappointed and said "Goodnight" pretty quietly.

If she does ask me, what do I say? I value our friendship but I don't have romantic feelings for her?



When I was in community college, in my public speaking class, the Sherlock/Torchwood/Firefly/Anime fangirl hambeast (she wrote speeches on these topics) asked me out as I was getting into my car. I didn't know what to say, so I lied and said I was seeing someone already. :I